5 Must Have House Rules in Recovery
After drug treatment is over and your halfway house experience is complete you will want to move into your own place. Most of the times those of us in recovery choose to live with roommates who are also in recovery like us. This is great because it offers you support and a safe place in your home. There are definitely some must have rules when you are living with people who are in sobriety just like you. Being in recovery is not always easy, especially when the chance of relapse is high. If someone isn’t doing the right thing it is imperative that there are house rules between you and all your roommates.
Here are the 5 must have house rules in recovery. These are not exclusive and can be expanded upon depending on the circumstance and living situation.
- No using or drinking. Of course this would be the first must have rule in recovery. You are no longer in recovery if you end up drinking or using so this rule is kind of a given between roommates who are all in recovery. Roommates must stay sober because once an addict relapses they become unaccountable and everything is up in the air. Having a roommate relapse can seriously cause problems in your living situation. So number one rule is STAY SOBER.
- Everyone must pay the bills on time. This second must have house rule is also a given. This rule is one that any person living with roommates or even on their own has to follow. You can’t live in a place and not pay rent. You must pay your dues and pay them on time. If you don’t this can lead to tension and problems in the living situation
- There must be boundaries. The third rule is to respect each other’s personal space. You wouldn’t want anyone coming in your room so you don’t go in anyone else’s room. This is an invasion of privacy and a total lack of respect for your roommate.
- If you are friends as well as roommates there must be clear communication. Being roommates with your best friend is great but it also can be difficult. This is because a lot of the times we don’t want to make our friends angry even though they may be doing something that is bothering us. For instance if your roommate is cleaning up and you don’t want to say anything because you don’t want your friend to be mad. No, you are both adults, and you are roommate’s now not just friends. There must be the expectation that you can talk to each other clearly about these issues.
- You don’t interfere with the other person’s personal time or life. Just like you set boundaries for instance you don’t expect a person to come in your room so you don’t go in their room, you do not get to tell you roommate what to do and not do. You don’t dictate their recovery nor do you tell them how late they can be out. This is not a halfway house anymore. You both pay bills, you are both adults, act like it. You should all be able to live your lives as long as it’s not interfering with your roommates and be ok.
It’s hard living with someone in recovery and being in recovery yourself but if you have the must have house rules in recovery it can make things go a bit smoother. Just remember honesty and open communication is always key to a good relationship with roommates. If you come from a caring place and practice spiritual principles in your home chances are everything will go just as it should.